
The Cost of Everything: Surrendering Your Life to Receive God's Best
Everything God takes from you, He takes because He has something bigger and better prepared for you.
There is a cost to everything God does in a life — but there is no price. The anointing cannot be purchased, earned, or achieved through spiritual discipline. Yet when God chooses to anoint someone, a cost comes with it: the death of self-will, the removal of worldly dependencies, and the painful process of spiritual formation that transforms a vessel into one capable of carrying His glory.
Teaching Overview
- There is a distinction between the price of the anointing and the cost of the anointing — God gives the anointing freely, but it comes with a cost that touches every area of life.
- When God steps into a life, His intention is to kill self-will so that His will can operate without interference.
- God removes worldly supports — relationships, finances, comfort, and security — so that the believer learns to depend entirely on Him.
- The spiritual man draws life from what God says, not from the flesh, and God prioritizes spiritual formation even at the expense of physical comfort.
- Through obedience and the breaking process, God gives a great name — not merely a clean one — and transforms the believer into a vessel of kingdom greatness.
Key Distinctions
| Price | Cost | |
|---|---|---|
| What it is | A payment made to acquire something | A consequence that comes upon the anointed life |
| Who pays it | Jesus — it has already been paid | The believer — through the dying of self-will and worldly dependencies |
| Can it be earned? | No — the anointing cannot be bought through fasting or prayer | No — but it must be accepted and walked through |
| What it touches | Nothing the believer can offer | Everything of the flesh: relationships, money, comfort, security |
| Source | Human effort or transaction | God's sovereign decision to anoint and break |
| Flesh | Spirit | |
|---|---|---|
| Source of life | Physical circumstances, relationships, money | The Word of God — logos and rhema |
| Response to God's work | Tries to save its own life; resists the breaking | Receives the things of the Spirit; surrenders |
| What it produces | No longevity; cannot maintain what it receives | Capacity to receive and absorb what God gives |
| Under pressure | Interprets loss as demonic attack | Recognises loss as deliverance and formation |
| Saving Your Life | Losing Your Life | |
|---|---|---|
| What it looks like | Clinging to relationships, income, comfort, and control | Releasing everything God removes without resistance |
| The result | Loss — the more you try to save it, the worse it becomes | Finding true life in Christ |
| The error | Mistaking God's breaking for demonic attack | — |
| Scriptural basis | Matthew 16:25 | Matthew 16:25 |
| Clean Name | Great Name | |
|---|---|---|
| What people want | A reputation free of controversy or struggle | — |
| What God gives | — | A name synonymous with greatness, built through the breaking process |
| Scriptural basis | Proverbs 22:1 — a good name, not merely a clean one | Genesis 12 — "I will make your name great" |
| How it is formed | Self-preservation | Obedience through suffering |
| Spiritual Warfare Prayer | Surrender | |
|---|---|---|
| What it looks like | Binding, rebuking, breaking generational curses, pleading the blood | "Father, every area of my life — I surrender it. Holy Spirit, take control." |
| The danger | Spending most of prayer time in warfare without recognising God's sovereign hand | Rarely practised; misunderstood as passivity |
| What it misses | That God Himself may be the one allowing the bruising | That surrender positions the believer to move with God rather than against Him |
| Logos | Rhema | |
|---|---|---|
| What it is | The written Word of God | The spoken, living word God releases to a specific person in a specific moment |
| What the spirit feeds on | The foundational truth of Scripture | The immediate, breathed-out word of God for now |
| Why it matters | The spirit man draws life from what God says — both the written and the spoken word | A carnal man cannot receive these things because his source of life is the flesh |
The Distinction Between Price and Cost
- The anointing cannot be earned through fasting, prayer, or spiritual discipline — God has already decided who He will anoint.
- There is no price to the anointing because it comes freely by God's sovereign grace, extended to whomever He chooses for His glory.
- Yet every anointed life carries a cost — not a payment made to God, but a consequence that comes upon the individual when God begins to work.
"There is a cost to everything, but there is no price to everything. There is a cost to everything, but there is no price for anything that comes from God."
The Death of Self-Will
- When God steps into a life, His intention is to kill that individual's self-directed life so that His will can operate without interference.
- The natural instinct of every person when God begins to work is to try to save their life — but the more they try to save it, the more it falls apart.
- In order for God's life to flow through a person, that person's life must first die.
"In order for His will to be done, Your will has to die."
God's Removal of Worldly Dependencies
- Whatever a believer depends on — money, family, friends, or their own abilities — God will remove it, because He wants to be their sole source.
- God does not want comfort found in friends; He wants comfort drawn from the Holy Spirit, who is the Comforter.
- God does not want direction sought from neighbours; He wants counsel drawn from His Spirit, because in order to go higher, every weight must be released.
"Whatever you depend on, God will take it away because he doesn't want you to depend on silver and gold. He wants you to depend on him."
Deliverance Through Loss
- The things that leave a believer's life are often not demonic attack — they are deliverance.
- God removes people, jobs, and circumstances that are not life-giving, even when the believer fights to retain them.
- What appears to be falling apart is frequently God clearing the way for what is truly His.
"Most of us don't understand that the things that leave our life is actually deliverance."
Surrender Over Spiritual Warfare
- Many believers spend most of their prayer time in spiritual warfare — binding, rebuking, and breaking yokes — while spending very little time surrendering to God's control.
- It pleases God to bruise those He is forming; the bruising often comes not through demons, but through people whom God permits to act.
- The real question in every season of pain is not whether the enemy is winning — it is whether the believer believes God is in control.
"We spend most of our time in prayer doing spiritual warfare and not surrendering to God's control."
The Holy Spirit's Intercession Against Premature Promotion
- The Holy Spirit intercedes according to God's will — and sometimes that intercession is a prayer that a door be closed, because the believer is not yet ready.
- God will withhold financial promotion, business growth, and visibility from a believer who has not developed a genuine prayer life, because promotion without proximity to God produces prayerlessness.
- The depth of training determines the longevity of what is entrusted — those who have not gone through anything cannot maintain anything.
"We rather keep him broke and prayerful than blessing and be prayerless."
The Spirit Man and the Source of Life
- It is the spirit, not the flesh, that gives life — the flesh profits nothing, and the spirit man draws its strength from what God says.
- A spiritual man receives the things of the Spirit; a carnal man cannot, because his source of life is the flesh, not the Spirit.
- When God prioritises the spiritual life, He strips away physical comforts to force dependence on the spirit — cornering the believer into prayer and intimacy with Him.
"Your Spirit man only draws life from what God says. That's what your Spirit eats."
The Breaking Produces a Great Name
- To whom much is given, much is required — and what God requires is not merely labour or service, but the breaking of the vessel.
- God does not want to give a clean name; He wants to give a great name — a name that becomes synonymous with something, built through obedience and suffering.
- Just as the name of Jesus only received its supreme authority after obedience unto death, so God's people are given greatness of name through the cost they walk through in surrender.
"Do you know why God is breaking you right now? Because through your obedience, God will give you a great name."
Key Definitions
Price — A payment made to acquire something. The anointing has no price because it cannot be purchased through fasting, prayer, or any human effort — Jesus has already paid the only price.
Cost — The consequence that comes upon an anointed life; not a payment to God, but the dying of self-will, the removal of worldly supports, and the process of spiritual formation that accompanies God's working in a life.
Rema — The specific, spoken word of God released to a person in a moment; distinct from logos (the written Word), and the source from which the spirit man draws life.
Logos — The written Word of God; foundational scriptural truth that the spirit man feeds on, distinct from the immediate spoken word (rhema).
Deliverance — Not limited to casting out demons; includes God's sovereign removal of people, relationships, jobs, and circumstances that are not life-giving, even when the believer does not recognise it as such.
Great Name — The name God gives through the breaking and obedience process — a name that commands attention both spiritually and physically because it has become synonymous with something; distinct from a merely clean or unblemished reputation.
Key Takeaways
- The anointing is free, but it comes with a cost — Understanding this prevents believers from either trying to earn the anointing or being blindsided when the cost arrives.
- What God removes from your life is often deliverance, not defeat — Recognising God's hand in loss transforms the believer's response from panic and warfare to surrender and trust.
- Surrender is a more powerful posture than spiritual warfare — Most believers invest heavily in binding and rebuking while rarely practising full surrender, yet surrender is what positions the believer to move with God's will rather than against it.
- The spirit man must be fed with what God says, not with what the flesh produces — Spiritual longevity and the capacity to receive God's blessings depend entirely on prioritising spiritual formation over physical comfort.
- Obedience through breaking produces greatness, not merely goodness — God's goal is not a clean reputation but a great name — one that carries weight in both the spiritual and physical realms because it was forged through costly obedience.
Reflection Questions
- When circumstances in your life begin to fall apart, is your first instinct to rebuke the enemy or to ask whether God is sovereignly at work — and what does that reveal about your trust in His control?
- What are the things you are currently clinging to — relationships, finances, comfort, or security — that God may be asking you to release so that He can become your true source?
- How much of your prayer life is spent in spiritual warfare compared to genuine surrender? What would it look like to spend two weeks simply saying, "Father, I surrender every area I have been trying to control"?
- Is your spirit man being fed — are you consistently in the Word and in prayer, or are you believing for promotion while God and the Holy Spirit are agreeing that you are not yet ready?
- Where in your life have you interpreted God's breaking as demonic attack? How does reframing that season as formation and deliverance change how you respond to it now?
Prayers and Declarations
Rise up — everywhere you are in the building, even those at home. Rise up, look to God, and tell the Lord Jesus:
"I accept the cost. I can't pray the price because Jesus paid the price. But I accept the cost."
"I rather lose everything but have you."
"I rather lose everything but have you."
"I rather lose everything but have you."
"All I want is you."
"Give me Jesus. All I want is Jesus."
"You can take my life, you can take my house, you can take my living. All I want is don't take your spirit from me."
"I accept the cost, Jesus. All I want is you, Lord. I accept the cost, God. I know that I cannot pay for it, Lord. All I want is you Jesus. All I want is you God."
In Jesus' name — say this:
"Father, in the name of Jesus, I thank you for the blessing. I thank you for the blessing of knowing Your son Jesus. Of knowing Your son Jesus. Father, I thank you. Father, I thank you. That You remain the same."
Scripture References
- Matthew 16:25 — "For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it." (KJV)
- Matthew 16:26 — "For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?" (KJV)
- Matthew 16:27 — "For the Son of man shall come in the glory of his Father with his angels; and then he shall reward every man according to his works." (KJV)
- John 6:63 — "It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life." (KJV)
- Luke 12:48 — "But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more." (KJV)
- Proverbs 22:1 — "A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold." (KJV)
- Philippians 2:8-10
- Romans 8:26
- Isaiah 53:10
- Genesis 12:2
Golden Nuggets
"There is a cost to everything, but there is no price to everything. There is a cost to everything, but there is no price for anything that comes from God."
"In order for His will to be done, Your will has to die."
"Whatever you depend on, God will take it away because he doesn't want you to depend on silver and gold. He wants you to depend on him."
"Most of us don't understand that the things that leave our life is actually deliverance."
"For every pain is preparing you for the future. For everything it takes is preparing you for something bigger. For every storm is preparing a better house, built on a rock that cannot be shaken, that cannot be moved."
"Your Spirit man only draws life from what God says. That's what your Spirit eats."
"Comfort is the killer of destinies."
"We rather keep him broke and prayerful than blessing and be prayerless."
"Do you know why God is breaking you right now? Because through your obedience, God will give you a great name."
"We are not saved by Jesus' preaching. We are saved by His death."
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